Thoughts About “Specialness” and “Special” Relationships
The concept of “Specialness” and “Special” Relationships often stirs up quite a bit of emotional energy when it gets raised as a topic in our groups, or on the Mindshifters Internet Radio Show. This is probably because we are living in a culture where the economy is driven by advertisers who tell us that we all need to be special and find a way to stand out from the crowd. We need to be prettier, stronger, thinner, sexier, smarter, richer, etc. We are also told that as social creatures we “need” to be in a relationship. Some of us are told that we are not “complete” unless we are in a relationship, that we are in some way defective if we can’t find someone to “love” us exclusively.
I begin with this conversation by bringing out the big name – Albert Einstein –
“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”
So, without even having to reach deep into various spiritual traditions and find explorations about how all yearning for specialness is the work of the ego, or “Edging Out God”, we can just tap into what Einstein lays out for us and realize that specialness creates a prison, and is born of the optical delusion that has us believing that we are separate.
After a recent discussion on the Mindshifters Internet Radio Show on March 16, 2018, during which a caller was struggling with difficult emotions around needing to feel special, it came to me to write down the following observation.
“In order to create any desire for “Specialness”, or a “Special Relationship”, I must first hide from myself the awareness of The Miracle of Life expressing through me and as me in this moment.”
I present this for your consideration and your comments as we continue to explore together the ways to find and remove every blockage to experiencing ourselves as the energy of Love expressing in form.
We Come From Love. We Are Made Of Love. We Are Love. Everything else is False.